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People are walking around with dollar signs on their heads.

How much value you have us denoted by either…

• How much money you have made

• Or how much money you can make me

Think I am talking bullshit?

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This is not a political post but if there broke homeless drunk in the corner of the hotel and I said half the mad stuff Trump say…

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Last Night, My 13-Year-Old Cut My Hair… 🥰

See the photo (he crushed it).

Also, see the fear in my eyes 😂 He’s so full of mischief, one foul swipe and I am history.

It wasn’t about the haircut, though.

It was about building trust.
Creating shared memories.
Forging an even stronger bond.

Everything gets so twisted in life. We g…

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I am so honored to be able to even write these words.

I am going to share something here that has changed my life over the past 12 months. Pretty sure it’s the transformation you might be looking for, also.

We live in a world obsessed with more. More followers. More leads. More money. More likes. M…

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There are 8 billion+ people on this planet…surely some of them are perfect for you.

So why do we settle for toxic?

Why do we compromise relationally?

Why do we let average become “good enough”?

You’re probably thinking about this in terms of personal life…

But what about work?

Why bother separating work and personal? What if we just called it your sphere, and asked one question:

“Who are the people you’re intentionally — or accidentally — surrounding yourself with?”

Because here’s the thing:

Accidental relationships are a dangerous game.
Your life will never improve by accident.
Improvements are only ever made by design.

We settle for dull, toxic, or average relationships for three reasons:

1. We don’t value ourselves enough to believe we deserve great people.

2. We don’t have strong enough boundaries to keep the filth out.

3. We’ve lost faith, and stopped believing brilliant people exist.

Please… no more settling.

There are 8 billion people on Earth. There are more than enough great ones.

Imperfect perfect ones. Life-giving ones.. for you.

Our Sphere Builder system is built on this truth:

Your life will radically change when you choose to build an outer circle of just 100 catalytic people.

Let’s look at this practically — let’s play the imagination game.

If you're in real estate...

Imagine tearing up your cold-calling script.
Quitting the hustle.
Letting go of toxic clients who pay well but treat you like they’re wearing your watch on their wrist.

Now picture this:

You’re surrounded by 100 warm, generous, life-giving people —
who buy and sell at your highest price point,
who value your time and talent,
who tell all their friends about you.

Is that a better life?

Or maybe you're a coach or a writer —
You’ve got an important message to give.

Imagine never again working with people who haggle over price…
who resist the work…
who say “maybe later” to their own growth.

What if instead you were surrounded by 100 aligned humans who:

• Resonate deeply with your message

• Love your tools

• Implement your ideas

• Evangelize your work to the world

Which world would you prefer?

The one where you scrap… Or the one you intentionally build?

None of this is impossible.

I’ve spent the last year designing models, frameworks, and tools to help you create it.

One of them is called The Dinner Guest Paradigm™.

I'm teaching it to our paid supporter in a private workshop this week. And we will give you access to test-drive our People Picker™, an AI tool that helps you identify the warm, life-giving humans in your current sphere.

Let’s start the process now. Let’s not waste any more time. For the paid supporters ($5/month) there is a short training video below to introduce the model.

Introducing the Dinner Guest Paradigm™

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One toxic person in your life can act like a dam in a river.

They block your ability to flow.
To create.
To engage the world in your own powerful, vibrant way.

It’s hard to live a full life when you’re carrying a 300-pound gorilla on your back.

It’s exhausting.
You second-guess yourself constantly, wondering if you’ll ever make it to the life you dream of.

I’ve experienced this.
And I know many high-achieving, heart-led people reading this have too.

The easy, surface-level advice?
"Just cut them out."

The truth?
Sometimes you can’t.
Not yet.

Sometimes the toxic person is a parent.
A child.
A boss.
A patient.
A partner.
Someone you can’t just walk away from.
Not without great cost.
Not without time.

This is a harsh world, and I want to speak with clarity and compassion to anyone living in this tension:

Your dreams matter.
Your life is sacred.
You are allowed to prioritize both.

No one has the right to hijack your energy, your time, your aliveness.
Not anymore.

This is one reason I’ve invested deeply in coaching with a master in visual modeling—so we can build new pathways forward for impact-driven entrepreneurs like you, who are done being held back.

Say this with me:

I am the person in my dreams.
I am overcoming great odds.
I cannot be held back.
I am finding a way to my future.
I am thriving.
I am growing.
I am becoming.

If you’re navigating a toxic presence in your life, we’ve developed a practical strategy to help you not just survive—but grow stronger.

💡 Support this work ($5/month) and get instant access to our full guide:
“5 Secrets to Overcoming Toxicity in Your Inner Circle”

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Completely intolerable.

I will not stand for it.

What?

You, living your life and not reaching all of your dreams.

Like me, going through the motions, just ticking things off here. Living a kind of average life, where I provide for my kids, BUT they never see me fully connected, and abundantly alive???

Not acceptable at all. To waste time is to waste your life.

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There has to be more, and we must go after it together.

Life is a contact sport, and there will be significant challenges placed in front of us that we must each overcome.

But there is no truth written that states that you and I must overcome all our challenges and reach all our goals alone.

It’s time to dream big again, and yet it’s also time to imagine things differently.

Your Next Birthday Party

I want you to think of your birthday party in the future

My next one is 11 months away.

How will you be celebrated?

Imagine if you were surrounded by clients, community leaders, and friends who surprise you and cherish you because of the deep impact that you’ve made in their lives?

Imagine if you knew that all your birthday guests would move heaven and earth to help you reach all of your goals?

Imagine if you could create a little micro-movement of goodness all around you?

Friend, you can have this birthday party and so much more.

You deserve a life where you are radiant, celebrated, and significant.

If you are reading this, the chances are that you are a bravely imperfect soul who dreams of big, impossible things…

Let’s make everything possible for you…

It all starts with you making an active choice and a strong decision.

This is going to hurt some people’s feelings.

It’s going to challenge some of your paradigms.

If you want your life to reach its full promise, then you are going to have to actively decide which people are on your birthday list.

• Toxic people don’t get invitations anymore.

• Just being family doesn’t cut it.

• Average doesn’t make the grade any longer, either.

It’s time for you to rise, and to do so, you must actively choose to surround yourself with the kinds of people who give you energy and inspire you.

Fellow big dreamers on this journey.

How do you identify these people, these co-authors in life?

For the paid supporters of Sphere, I’ve given you access to our Two Trees Framework (TM) below, which we use in trainings to help people find their real tribe.

Support this publication, and I’ll give you my very best here

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I stole it from an Internet guru who I greatly admire.

He was expressing the holy notion that we don’t meet people by accident. That we are sent to each other, for each other.

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I agree with this notion. I believe that you are in fact reading this post for a reason…

However, I hate the categorisation of people like they are some kind of datapoint.

Sure, such categorisation makes the world safer and people appear more manageable… But what if it actually makes us all weaker, less dynamic and accidentally more dangerous?

To illustrate my point, for our paid supporters below (please support us) I am using the strange and weird example of the marriage contract…

Till Death Do Us Part

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Okay, a little hyperbole here.

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I was removing the layers of dust and grime that had settled on its hard exterior. The cleaning process was helpful for me; when I move my body, I think better, create better, and get ideas.

If you are feeling stuck right now, getting your body in motion can help. Any movement or activity will do.

My kids came to help, and as I worked with them, an idea for this post came to me.

The idea is called “the manipulation of me.”

I was thinking about parenting and how it can be so tempting to weld your children to your ways, to them mini-versions of you.

Talk this way. Act this way. Be good at these things.

It’s kind of horrible, though, and boring too.

We could be listening, learning, exploring, and discovering exactly who they are.

Our hands could be more open when it comes to the people in our care.

A closed hand cannot receive anything. I can only strike or hold on tight.

There is tension in a closed hand… always; it’s a stressful way to be with people.

Imagine building a life where none of that was necessary. Where we were secure enough to just listen, guide sometimes, and then simply walk the world with those we live with.

This concept brings me much relief.

Controlling a child, a family member, a partner, or a workmate is draining. It’s done from a place of tension, the hand is closed, you are seldom surprised and never delighted.

Let’s relax a little around those we love.

Let’s listen more to their wishes, their desires, and their way of being.

This brings me back to my dirty car. There was nothing broken about it, I did not need to take it into the shop or get it fixed up. I didn’t need to fire it and get another car.

It just needed a little care, a little love, and a little attention.

It’s standing pretty proudly in the driveway now.

Listen, and let it be.

Geoff x

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We can do better. Let’s love each other more. We can always make this choice.

No law, no leader, no circumstance or event can keep us from love and kindness.

You are my sister, my brother, my child, my father and my mother.

We alone will change the world.

I love you.
G x

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It’s an extremely haunting image, burned into my retinas from my time in Los Angeles.

I drive to Home Depot to pick up some paint for some renovations. Outside the store a group of 20 plus Hispanic men are waiting.

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They are day workers, looking for casual work to pay for food, to feed their families.

Across the other side of the car park a large black SUV truck pulls up & somebody shouts something. Clearly the occupants of this truck are “offering work”…

… because the men of all shapes and ages race across the car park, desperately trying to get there first, needing so much that work. AND then I see him at the back of the racing crowd…

A more elderly man, perhaps 60, with a very bad limp. AND he’s hobbling so painfully, so determinedly, so bravely across the car park, falling further and further behind, and yet trying none-the-less to feed his family.

This is the face of undocumented immigrant in the USA that I will never forget. The good soul. The brave soul. The man who fights for his family.

Many, many times in my life I have limped badly in the fight to take care of my children. I understand this struggle. It is the struggle of men and women everywhere.

So when you accuse them, you also accuse me. When you point your finger at them, you most likely point a finger at your own undocumented ancestors.

We can disagree about many things BUT we should not disagree about the universal challenges that we all have faced and may all face sometime again in our future.

We should not lose our empathy. We should not forget our own humanity.

They are not a label, or a problem, or a faceless enemy, they are human beings just like you and me.

Your greatness isn’t defined by a piece of paper, a place of birth, a flag or an anthem. That alone doesn’t make anyone great.

• Instead it is defined by the amount of dignity you carry.

• It’s characterized by the largeness of your heart.

• It’s illustrated by the care you have for others.

• It’s exemplified by the humility in the way you walk.

• It’s found in the love you carry for people who are different than you.

I remember hearing an ancient story about a very wise man, some say he was the son of God. He said:

“For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me?

You can tell a lot about the character of a person simply by looking at how they treat a stranger.

Much love!
Geoff

Existing in completely blackness but for the smallest shaft, a keyhole of bright light that pierced the darkness.

Although his body atrophied, his spirit did not shrivel, because he refused to let his grateful heart perish in that cage.

He was deprived of almost everything, but there was not a force great e…

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Bullshit is a metaphor. I’ve no intention on writing about actual fecal matter.

You can stop holding your nose.

Nothing gets in the way of genuine connection more than layers of pretense and role playing.

If I cannot see who you really are then how can I possible kno…

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They steal your joy and the love of what you do. In this video we take a look at the sources of toxicity and we have a quick pass at what you need to do to avoid it.